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Reality vs. Role Play

Many of us live our lives half-offline, half-online. The degree to which we form relationships between the two realms is personal choice. Some believe they are entitled to do whatever they wish and behave however they want without repercussion or consequence, and due to the false perception that online interactions aren’t “real”, this behaviour is far worse online than it is offline. Where two or more humans are interacting, regardless of forum, it is real. […]

On Ownership and Collars

Owners and slaves sometimes have difficulties with misconceptions and assumptions from people outside of the relationship. Frequently, these result from preconceived notions about collars and a slave’s place in general. This is not about “room”, “house”, or “play slaves” who often exist to serve everyone and anyone. It is about the slaves in TPE relationships who answer to a single person. Usually. There are some couples or poly groups who enjoy joint ownership. Regardless, the […]

Nettiquette on Cuff-Link

So you have found your way onto the Internet. In particular #cuff-link and the Cuff-Link Community in general. We would like to share some of our experiences with you, both from personal points, and things we have witnessed ourselves. Do’s Treat it like real life, treat people as you would in real life, don’t hide behind a nickname. Don’t give people your life story, not everyone you will meet online will be as genuine or […]

Kink Shaming – What it Is and Is Not

Kink shaming is the act of devaluing, disrespecting, mocking or disparaging a person over [or because of] their kink or fetish. Assuming a person is not also into humiliation or degradation over their other kinks or fetishes, this is discouraged. If you do so, you may find yourself harshly chastised by anyone observing it, even if they aren’t into the kink or fetish themselves. However, stating any of the following is not kink shaming: I […]

Consensual Non-Consent, Safewords, and Overall Safety

Cuff-Link strives to be a safe place for the lifestyle community to interact with one another, which includes emphasis on personal responsibility and attempting to keep predators out of the community. Because of the nature of some BDSM and kink play, it’s important to address several factors to help everyone have a safe place to play. Intent and Consent This applies to Cuff-Link specifically and the world in general. Some use Cuff-Link strictly as an […]