On Ownership and Collars

Owners and slaves sometimes have difficulties with misconceptions and assumptions from people outside of the relationship. Frequently, these result from preconceived notions about collars and a slave’s place in general. This is not about “room”, “house”, or “play slaves” who often exist to serve everyone and anyone. It is about the slaves in TPE relationships who answer to a single person. Usually. There are some couples or poly groups who enjoy joint ownership. Regardless, the […]

High-Protocol is a Dead Internet Phenomena… or Is It?

Preface: This post is the sixth and last in a series of posts regarding protocol. Put together, they are really, really long. If you have the reading attention span of a gnat on methamphetamines, then the TL;DR version is this: Protocol exists in nearly every BDSM/Kink partnership, whether occasional play partners to full-fledged TPE relationships. It’s not a question of whether to protocol but whether to add degrees of protocol. There’s also a discussion on […]

Why Protocol is a Personal Style Thing vs. a Lifestyle Standard

Preface: This post is the fifth in a series of posts regarding protocol. Put together, they are really, really long. If you have the reading attention span of a gnat on methamphetamines, then the TL;DR version is this: Protocol exists in nearly every BDSM/Kink partnership, whether occasional play partners to full-fledged TPE relationships. It’s not a question of whether to protocol but whether to add degrees of protocol. There’s also a discussion on why protocol […]

TLS [SSL] Setup On Various Clients

Here are some visuals on some popular clients to assist with setting up TLS connections in preparation for the February 1, 2018 change to going TLS-only on Cuff-Link. Feel free to submit support tickets with screenshots in any clients we don’t have here or request that we get some for you! Notes: If you already have TLS/SSL enabled, but you have boxes ticked that say “Accept invalid certificates”, untick them. Our certs are verified with […]

Cuff-Link is Going TLS-Only

Consent. Privacy. Security. These are the three things that help us ensure safety and minimal risk for everyone who uses Cuff-Link. We cannot properly do this while allowing people to connect to the network with insecure [unencrypted] connections. After several months of mulling it over, the decision has been made to go TLS-only [aka SSL-only] by February 1, 2018. This gives us 3 months to assist people with updating their clients to the correct ports […]